Jessywryte

TREAT THEM WELL Long after you've both parted ways, how you made people feel will always be a part of them. Put simply, people will never forget how you made them feel. It will always be a point of reference for them. How you treat people is the legacy you leave with them. But how you treat others also has far reaching consequences. You see, how you treat people can have an impact on their life trajectory. I know you are probably thinking "How's that even possible?" But it's true, how you make people feel might affect how they feel about themselves and their potentials and how people feel about their potentials will determine how far they are willing to go to actualize it. And how far they are willing to go to actualize their potentials will determine their life's trajectory. So whenever you are opportuned to lead people, always think about what your actions and words are actually communicating. Always think about the effect it is having on their psyche. You d...

BE CONSIDERATE Perhaps nothing is a better marker for maturity and emotional intelligence than empathy. The ability to feel the pain of another without wearing their shoes to know where it pinches is one of the biggest markers of emotional intelligence. But it goes beyond that. It doesn't have to pain. It can be the ability to be tolerant or the willingness to view things from another's perspective. It can even be the art of not jumping to conclusions before knowing the whole story or avoiding the tendency to judge people, especially when you don't really know them and have no idea where they've been or the tragedies they've had to endure. If I can summarize all I've been saying in two words, it would be "Be Considerate". Being considerate also means you care genuinely for others, always looking for ways to attend to their needs. What kind of place would the world be if we begin to pay attention to the needs of others? What would happen when you start ...

EVERYWHERE IS A SCHOOL He was always observing how the engineers worked on the machines. The act of fixing the machines caught his interest whenever he saw them working. Everyday, he would listen to them talk, describe and operate the machines. He never said a word but kept observing and learning. As time passed, he continued to learn about the machines. Two years later, he became a pro.  You know what he did? He didn't waste his time and he didn't overlook the activities around him. For him, it was an opportunity to learn. He made the workshop a school. The same applies to you. You don't need to attend a special school to acquire certain skills. You can learn by observing and watching. As a matter of fact, observation always precedes discovery. Everywhere is a school, so as you journey through life, learn as much as you can. Sometimes, you even learn better and faster by sheer observation than the traditional way of reading and writing. So don't wait to be taken to a s...

SEE FINISH" Syndrome: Are You Infected? As you journey through life, you meet people. Some become acquaintances, others become friends and yet with others you develop a special and close relationship. The latter is usually the best of all. You have become close friends with this awesome person, and their impact is giving your life a new turn. But overtime, if you are not careful, overfamiliarity sets in and you find yourself taking for granted the things you once cherished. Please permit me to call this the "SEE FINISH" syndrome. The "SEE FINISH" syndrome has been the cause for many unrealized potential. That person you have become overly familiar with is holding some keys that could unlock your potential but because you have become so familiar with them, you no longer value their input in your life so much that they don't bother giving it again. The truth is, once you become overly familiar with someone you used to respect, you are likely to lose some of t...

STOP WAITING FOR TOMORROW The funny thing about waiting for tomorrow is that tomorrow never comes. The truth is, nobody has ever seen or been in tomorrow. Does that sound strange to you? It shouldn't. You see, tomorrow becomes today before you even get to it. When the clock ticks past twelve, you can no longer call it tomorrow. If you follow through on what I've said so far, you should have ideas on what I'm about to say next. _Waiting for tomorrow is waiting for a day that never comes_ . I mean, I'm not telling you something new. I'm just reminding you of what you already know but for some reason have chosen to ignore. I think one of the reasons we ignore this fact is that it is a helpful alibi for making excuses. Get over it. If you keep waiting for tomorrow, you will grow grey hairs on your dream and still not come anywhere close to achieving them. Worse, you might end up frustrated in your old age. And you don't have to talk to ten old people to figure that ...

WILL YOU BE LESS BUSY TOMORROW? What's the excuse for procrastination? That's right, "I will do it tomorrow". Each time we procrastinate or put off an activity or goal for a later time in the future, we rely on a dangerous prospect: that tomorrow will come with more time or better opportunities for us to achieve the task. We place hope in a future where we will be better equipped to achieve the task. But you see, the future is like a thread that begins with your past and continues with your present. Which means the future is totally dependent on the present. Because you need to have a "today" to live in a "tomorrow", your tomorrow depends on your today. I know this is a hard pill to swallow but there are things that if you can't do today, you can't do in ten tomorrows. So instead of banking on an alibi that makes you procrastinate, start getting things done even when you don't feel like it or the circumstances don't look like you ha...